Stop Breaking Up Sibling Fights (Do This Instead)
Tired of being a referee all day long?
“He hit me.” “She took my toy.” “This isn’t fair.”
Here’s what I learned:
Don’t solve their problems. Teach them to solve their own.
What this looks like:
- “I see two upset kids. What’s the problem?”
- “How do we fix this together?”
- “I trust you both to work this out.”
Your new fight phrase:
“You both have big feelings. Let’s figure this out.”
Why this works:
They learn problem-solving skills instead of depending on you to fix everything.
Try this week:
Stay calm. Your energy sets the tone.
Ask questions instead of making judgments.
Only step in if someone gets hurt.
Remember: Your job isn’t to prevent all conflicts. Teach them how to handle conflicts.
Source: Child psychologists recommend teaching conflict resolution skills over constant intervention
P.S. What’s the most common fight at your house? Hit reply.
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